• Stress, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, and Phobias
  • Depression
  • Shame, Guilt, and Low self-esteem
  • Personal growth challenges
  • Issues related to one's work environment
  • Loss and Grief
  • Healing from trauma
  • Relationships
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Marriage / Couple Counseling
  • Recovering from infidelity
  • Separation, Divorce, End of Relationship Transitions
  • Parenting Issues

The Forrest of Marriage

On a dark & stormy night you are looking for your way to your destination. You are told that this is a beautiful place place where you feel at peace, loved and accepted, treasured and wanted, comfortable and happy. Currently, however, you are nowhere near your sanctuary. You are lost among the dense trees, getting wetter and colder by the minute. It’s dark and frightening and you can’ find your way out. Suddenly there is a lightning strike and for one instant you see it…and it’s incredible…lovelier than you could have ever imagined it! What’s more, you see a clear path to get there but then it’s gone and you are thrown back into darkness, left only with a memory of your beautiful destination and the path to get there. So you continue to move, struggle, stumble and even fall, because you know the end is well worth it. Once you find it, you will never loose it again. As dark as it may get, you will know your way back.

Human beings aren’t meant to be alone. We know that humans are always better when they share themselves with someone else. The intrinsic need for love is developed at a very young age. At first it’s all about survival, evolving later into a deep desire. As adolescents we spend many daydreams wondering whom we will end up with. We develop a craving to belong to somebody and do not feel truly fulfilled until we find them. For some the forest may not be as scary and dark as it is for others. After All, we have many distractions today that take our attention away from the goal post, so the need and the craving is not as strong…but it’s there.

Then one day, we meet “the one” and it’s a lightning strike. We feel it with every fiber of our being. This is our destination. This is where we are meant to be. But the moment is brief, only enough to give us a glimpse of what our life could be like. So now we are left with just the memory…and it’s beautiful. So we toil and we struggle, stumble and fall among the thorny paths in the forest of a marriage because we have a memory and we know it’s real. Once we’ve made it, once we know the path, we will never be lost again and it’s always worth the trip.
Love is difficult, marriage is difficult. We  make the mistake of thinking that when we fall in love, when the lightning strikes, that it’s permanent. It’s not! Consider it a brief gift. A glimpse of a future, where you feel at peace, loved and accepted, treasured and wanted, comfortable and happy. To make that glimpse a reality you have to work hard, you have to stumble and fall, you may have some bruises (on your heart) but for this beautiful destination, isn’t it worth the trip?